Can you see yourself accepting the fact that your significant other is with someone else?
Over the last couple years we've started to hear more and more about the so called "Open Relationship", which is described by couples as an "openness" with your husband/wife or girlfriend/boyfriend, which allows your partner the option to look outside your relationship for intimacy as long as there is "Open" communication. This view is completely contrary to what the traditional monogamous relationship would be described as. BET talk show host, Monique has admitted to allowing her husband the option to be with other woman, if he desired to. She states that she prefers to know what her man is doing; because it's the inevitable that men will be attracted to other females and she prefers that her husband of 25 years, is open and honest about his feelings with her. Actor Will Smith and his wife, Jada Pinkett have also admitted to having an open relationship, and they describe it as having a "free ticket", which would allow either of them one chance to step outside the marriage to be with someone else. To some that may be a detrimental move, because what happens if your partner is not satisfied with only one night? What if they start to develop feelings for the other person? What if they start to desire the other person more then their mate? This is why, I don't believe that it is a good thing to teach contrary beliefs to our society. What's the difference from a wife or husband having an affair? Is it worse because they didn't tell their wife or husband? We've been exposed to so many public affairs within the last couple years, like Tiger Woods, Jesse James and numerous American politicians. Regarding the topic of open relationships; there has been a lot of negative backlash on these views, but Monique and these other couples who have been successfully married for a number of years, say that this so-called 'openness' is what has brought success to their relationship. I personally could never see myself accepting that concept into my own personal relationship. I agree with openness and communication but, marriage is a spiritual commitment between two individuals. It is a commitment of fidelity and respect. I guess nowadays....people are doing what works for them. But, this new concept of marriage and relationships is definitely setting a contradicting tone towards what conventional relationship values are and think about it, If your partner wants to be with someone else......How deep is their love for you?
Chapter 1 – Is this Love? The Interpretation of Love
By Tricia White
Some would describe love as, feeling like your floating on air, everything and everyone suddenly become so beautiful. The little things that used to bother and irritate you don’t seem to be so irritating anymore. What is this feeling of total utopia? You literally feel like life has some real meaning, at last. It all started when that special person entered your life. He approached you when you weren’t even expecting it. You were swept off your feet and your emotional connection has brought two hearts together. This is how most woman feel when they fall in “love”. Whether they call it love at first sight or it has been ten years in the making, people tend to identify their feelings as love.
When you think about love, some say it’s the best thing that has ever happened to them and some curse the day it entered their lives. Whatever, your experience has been with love; some would say that life would not be the same without it. The bible describes love as…
Love suffers long and is kind; Love does not envy; Love does not
parade itself, Love is not puffed up; does not behave
rudely, does not seek it’s own, it is not provoked, thinks no evil.
Does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;
Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things;
Endures all things. 1 Corin. 13:4-7
The bible interprets love as the most important human emotion . If many were to look into their situations they would really have a hard time identifying these values in their relationships. Love is the emotion that is misinterpreted more then any other human emotion. There are so many different definitions of “Love”. Many would consider it to be the most valuable and sought after feeling that one can acquire in their lives. Love can also be looked at in degrees of intensity. There is bloodline love, which is felt within a family. There is friendship love, which is attained through maintaining meaningful relationships with people and there is the most intense love that connects two people on a mental, physical and spiritual level; which is the love attained from an intimate relationship. Intimate does not necessarily mean physical, but it means the joining of two people together to become one. From a very young age, many girls dream about that miraculous day when they meet their knight in shining armor, the man that will be their everything. They dream about falling hopelessly in love and they hope to marry, have babies and then grow old together. This is typically how woman would like it to work, a fairytale. But, let’s just say, there are some who are blessed and have it that easy and there are some who aren’t as lucky and it becomes a mission that needs to be accomplished in their lives.
Love is a concept that of course has been around from the beginning of time. It exists within our families and with our closest friendships but, it has the most presence in our intimate relationships. We as human beings have been built to gravitate to someone of the opposite sex to look for companionship. God created us to find that partner to live our adult lives with; which along with a lot of other benefits, is to pro-create. The perception of love definitely can be distorted and it usually is; by people simply wanting to believe that certain behaviors are identifiers of love. This has caused a mass misconception throughout our nation surrounding the topic of love.
For more on the true meaning of love...look out for my book to be released 2011.........(c)Copyright 2010 Tricia White
Ladies...correct me if I'm wrong but, there definitely seems to be a shortage of single "eligible" bachelors lately. If that isn't the case, for some reason it sure feels that way. I remember a day when women would feel pumped and excited to be able to get their best "freakum dress" on and venture out with the girls, feeling most confident that you would meet at least one decent gentlemen. These days, that feeling seems to no longer exist. Usually what happens is you get dolled up and hit up the party district, but all that seems to be around is broke-down, used up....losers. The idea of meeting anyone worth seeing or talking to the next day, is very scarce. So, to me the idea of finding a guy at a club or party; is not the best option. I usually find more success in meeting guys in more casual everyday encounters, to be more successful. Like catching someones attention while shopping or at the gym, or better yet meeting a spiritual man at your place of worship. I am definitely over dating the Mr. Right now's, and focused on finding my Mr. Right. My bit of advice would be to let go, and let life play out your destiny naturally.....because the moment your not looking or anticipating is when your Mr. Right will creep up and snatch your heart forever!!
Can you see yourself accepting the fact that your significant other is with someone else?
