About 3 weeks ago, I watched the Fantasia Barrino biography that aired on tv and my heart was filled with compassion for her because of the trials and tribulations that she went through in her life. And I was equally filled with joy and admiration for her when she received a true miracle by winning American Idol. It would have seemed that the possibilities were endless for this 26 year old songstress, but it seems like she has taken the idea of "endless possibilities" way too far by now being in the tabloids everywhere for allegedly having an affair with, Antwaun Cook, a T-Mobile sales manager, who she actually met at a T-Mobile store. Antwaun Cook is still legally married to his wife Paula Cook. Paula Cook, cited for a legal separation from her husband alleging an affair between her husband and Fantasia Barrino. She has also reported that she found a sex tape which confirms her suspicions. Based on the photo's on the web, Fantasia and her beau didn't really seem to be concerned about the affair being public while they were photographed on a Bahamas vacation. One could assume the relationship was very serious because Fantasia tattooed her married boyfriends last name across her shoulder?? Following Paula's file for separation, Fantasia was hospitalized for an overdose of aspirin and sleeping pills. Who knows if the death wish, was because her relationship may now come to an end, or if shes guilty of her actions or if she is just tired of dealing with the bad press. Whatever it is, Fantasia is in a very bad place right now and our prayers go out to her and hopefully, she will pull herself together and learn that what goes around comes around and taking what is not yours is not okay. Of course, she is not the only one to blame, it takes two to tango right? Mr.Cook has the obligation to his wife and kids, but both are equally responsible for their actions. Ironically, before her secret love affair was exposed, she had made a new single called "Lucky" where she seems to be expressing her interest in someone elses "goodies". Not a good look! Come on Fantasia, get yourself together girl! Check out the new single "Lucky".....
Have you ever felt like you were wearing the pants in your relationship? This feeling is becoming more and more of an issue for women these days. This is a topic that most women are aware of but have decided to keep "hush hush" about, because of the shortage of eligible bachelors out there. The concept is, if you find someone who is bearable.... then just suck it up and deal. There is so much compromise going on from a woman's point of view because we feel that its a choice between taking whats available to you or possibly ending up with no one at all. Women now feel like they have to settle because of the fear of being alone. There has definitely been a shift in roles between men and women. Men have slowly become more comfortable with their women taking care of their bills, applying for credit under their names, and "living off" of their women. It's not necessarily wrong to help your partner, but if it's completely one-sided, definitely keep an eye on that. Women have now become very complacent with these "half men" as I would call it. What has happened to our society is that the idea of "manliness" has slowly disappeared from our expectations. Don't get me wrong, by no means am I talking about every man, we still have a lot of real men out there that are holding down the fort in every way but, we have a high percentage of men who have lost their way. There are a number of reasons why our community has lost the "ideal man" and these reasons are the unemployment rate for males is still very high, a lot of young men have become products of their society and chose a life of crime and are suffering the consequences, lack of higher education, men feeling worthless and instead of breaking that barriers they choose to live up to that expectation of worthlessness, fathers being absent from their son's lives and women becoming complacent and accepting a man who is not necessarily holding down his role as the man in the relationship. I guess I am a bit old fashioned in my views but, I still believe in the old school definition of a man. Back in the day the man was supposed to be the backbone of their relationship and family and responsible for setting the foundation to build and establish life. My grandfather and father have expressed to me that they have also seen a true difference from their generation compared to ours. Maybe my expectations are too high, some would say but, I don't think that wanting a man that will uplift my life and actually help me; as well as I do the same for him is a lot to ask for. Ladies, all that I'm saying is a man should have something to bring to the table other then whats between his legs. And likewise, a woman should not be completely reliant on a man. The concept of the modern day "Gold Digger" is still very relevant in our community and that is also very wrong. Men, likewise if you see some of these patterns with your woman, you may need to have a discussion. There should be equality between both people. But, if you find a man and (the handsome ones usually do this) who show signs that they are self centered, like playing the sympathy card, always complaining about money and asking you for money for this, that and the other and want you to feel "sorry" for them. Be aware of these signs. This is usually not a good sign. I'm not saying to break it off but, keep your eyes open and if you see a pattern......communicate and hopefully that will help. Some men are at a disadvantage in their lives at certain points of time and that is understandable and some genuinely need a helping hand but, if you continue to let every request slide and grant every wish like your a "Genie" then you may find yourself in a situation where you are the one expected to take care of your man and some men will take that opportunity and run with it.
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In my best Toya voice..."This week on Tiny and Toya....." Wedding Bells! Well, I don't know about you all but, I am Super happy about this one. It has been a long time coming. I guess being locked up for a minute had TI in some serious soul searching and he decided to take the plunge this weekend with longtime girlfriend, Tiny(Tameka Cottle). If you watched BET's Tiny and Toya, you know that this has been Tiny's wish for a long time. I'm genuinely happy for her! I guess having her man spend a little time behind bars was not so bad, in her case! So ladies you know what you got to do......get you man locked up for a minute...... that will scare him straight! lol Just kidding! Anyways, these two have been going at it for awhile and this wedding was long overdue! The fireworks that went off in honor of their big day was well suited......Congrats Tiny and TI! I guess you got each others backs for life...Real Good Look!
Have you ever been out shopping at the grocery store or enjoying your evening run and felt eyes piercing at you? Well this is very common.... men naturally have a disease called "wandering eyes syndrome" and they don't seem to feel the need to be discreet about it by any means. I don't have a problem with looking if that's your thing, but it becomes a problem when your woman is right next to you. Come on there should be some level of respect.....don't get me wrong some ladies suffer with "wandering eye syndrome" as well but, it tends to be the males that take it to another level. A lot of woman are insecure about their relationship and have a hard time standing up to their partner about the issue. On the other hand, some women genuinely don't have a problem with it and they have an understanding with their man, which is rare. I've experienced it many times from both sides, being the woman stared at and being the woman being disrespected by having my man suffer from a "staring spasm" while being out with me. On both ends of the spectrum...it's a problem. I've seen couples out together, but the man feels the need to either stare directly in your face or give you the up and down full body glance...followed by licking his lips with a sinister look. I've even had it go way out of control where someone tried to grab my hand as he walked by with his woman...WTH(What the Hell) Some men even try to go as far as trying to lose their women in the grocery store aisles just so they have an opportunity to walk by and make small talk. That's taking it to another level. It sometimes is completely uncomfortable because for me no matter how attractive the guy is, I genuinely feel bad for the woman he's with at the time. The women in these situations for some reason think that it's best to ignore it and usually choose to try to divert the attention back to them by asking their man a random question or shrugging him, to break the awkwardness. I've had a past boyfriend who had this "condition" and apparently he wasn't aware of it, so I diagnosed him lol. So, I understand how it feels to be the girl to experience that horrible "backside glance" as an attractive female brisked by in the mall or on a date and I knew that was completely unacceptable. But, once I called him out on it and he stopped; at least when I was there. I've also experienced married men of a particular culture which I won't reveal, who feel that they have the liberty to #1 disrespect their wives as well as put you into an uncomfortable position by basically flirting and even trying to pursue you while the poor wife stands there and witnesses the whole thing. Most men will put it off as being "friendly" but there is a fine line between "friendly" and "pursuing someone friendly". Regardless, as I said before we understand that men or women will occasionally look and that is fine...but ladies check your men if there putting you into a position where you feel disrespected or unhappy with them staring at other females when your around. And vice versa, men if you have ladies with "wandering eyes" and you don't like it, communicate and let them know that it is not acceptable. Sometimes, believe it or not they may not be conscious of their actions especially if they've always been that way. It's better to nip these small nuances in the butt when you can, then keeping your hurt feeling buried up and having an outburst later on. The #1 leading cure for "wandering eye syndrome" is calling your partner out on it!
About 3 weeks ago, I watched the Fantasia Barrino biography that aired on tv and my heart was filled with compassion for her because of the trials and tribulations that she went through in her life. And I was equally filled with joy and admiration for her when she received a true miracle by winning American Idol. It would have seemed that the possibilities were endless for this 26 year old songstress, but it seems like she has taken the idea of "endless possibilities" way too far by now being in the tabloids everywhere for allegedly having an affair with, Antwaun Cook, a T-Mobile sales manager, who she actually met at a T-Mobile store. Antwaun Cook is still legally married to his wife Paula Cook. Paula Cook, cited for a legal separation from her husband alleging an affair between her husband and Fantasia Barrino. She has also reported that she found a sex tape which confirms her suspicions. Based on the photo's on the web, Fantasia and her beau didn't really seem to be concerned about the affair being public while they were photographed on a Bahamas vacation. One could assume the relationship was very serious because Fantasia tattooed her married boyfriends last name across her shoulder?? Following Paula's file for separation, Fantasia was hospitalized for an overdose of aspirin and sleeping pills. Who knows if the death wish, was because her relationship may now come to an end, or if shes guilty of her actions or if she is just tired of dealing with the bad press. Whatever it is, Fantasia is in a very bad place right now and our prayers go out to her and hopefully, she will pull herself together and learn that what goes around comes around and taking what is not yours is not okay. Of course, she is not the only one to blame, it takes two to tango right? Mr.Cook has the obligation to his wife and kids, but both are equally responsible for their actions. Ironically, before her secret love affair was exposed, she had made a new single called "Lucky" where she seems to be expressing her interest in someone elses "goodies". Not a good look! Come on Fantasia, get yourself together girl!
